Tact

 

         Some people have it and some don’t, but there is hope of getting some if you don’t have any.  If you have it, you can be called “tactful”, and if you don’t have it, you can be called “tactless.”

 

         The dictionary defines “tact” in this way – “a delicate perception of the right thing to say or do without offending.”

 

         So, how important is “tact” to you personally?  Do you try to be tactful?  Do you like it when others are tactful with you?   Do you ignore tact sometimes?  If yes, do you ignore tact with your friends or non-friends?

 

         Would your friends, family, coworkers describe you as generally tactful or not?  How do you relate to strangers?  Would the clerk in the grocery store or the stewardess on an airplane describe you as tactful or not?

 

         Give examples of situations that really require “tact”.  If possible, describe a personal situation where someone was tactful with you, or you were tactful with someone else.

 

         Give examples of situations where someone was “tactless.”  If possible, describe a personal situation where someone was tactless with you, or you were tactless with someone else.

 

         Describe a situation where it is appropriate to be tactless.  If you are a very tactful person, is this difficult for you?

 

         Imagine that you have two close friends – one is tactful and one is tactless.  What are the pros and cons of each kind of friend?   If you have such friends, please tell about it.  Who are you closer to and why?

 

         Marriage requires adaptations.  How does a tactful spouse adapt to a tactless spouse?  How do differences in communication style affect the way the couple relates to the world?  Give examples from your own marriage, your hoped for marriage or marriages that you have observed.

 

 

 

 

Do you agree or disagree with these proverbs from the Bible.  Explain your reaction.

 

“The mouth of the good is a fountain of life.  The mouth of the bad hides violence.” 10:11

 

“When you correct a scoffer, you will be laughed at.  When you correct a bad man, you will be insulted.  Don’t correct a scoffer, or else he will hate you.  Correct a wise man and he will love you.  Teach a wise man.  He will become even wiser.  Teach a person who does right.  He will learn even more.”  9:7-9