Decision – Making:  Head versus Heart


         In our lives, we have to make many small decisions everyday and occasionally some very large decisions.  Two parts of ourselves may be involved in making decisions:  our head and our heart.   Sometimes head and heart don’t agree!

First, define head and heart decisions.  Give examples of each process.

         Discuss the pros and cons of making decisions with the heart or the head.  What are the advantages and disadvantages of each?

         How do you make decisions on small things or big things?  Do you small decisions differently than big decisions?  Do you involve other people in your decisions such as family, friends, teachers, coworkers or others?

         If and when you are married, how do you expect to make decisions that concern both husband and wife together?

         Are you slow or fast to make decisions?  For example, do you think for a long time before deciding to purchase a car or house, or take a job or have children?  Or do you make decisions fairly quickly?  Are you impulsive?  Give examples.

         Do you like to look back at decisions and say, “This was a good decision.  This was a bad decision”?  How do you decide if your decision was wise or not?  How long do you wait to see results?  Can a good decision have a bad outcome?  Can a bad decision have a good outcome?



         The Christian believes that God wants to be involved in their personal decisions.  Here are three examples:

 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.”  Proverbs 3:5-6

 “I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you should go;  I will counsel you with My eye upon you.  Do not be as the horse or as the mule which have no understanding, who must have bit and bridle to direct them.”  Psalms 32:9

“(God) will surely be gracious to you at the sound of your cry; when He hears it, He will answer you. . . He, your Teacher, will no longer hide Himself, but your eyes will behold your Teacher.  And your ears will hear a word behind, “This is the way, walk in it,” whenever you turn to the right or to the left.”  Isaiah 30:19-21